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In Order To Enjoy Your Life You Might Have To Change Your Point of View

"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."
- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts 

If you’re given second placed, do you jump for joy? Or push for better results? Do you say next time I'll be first place? Or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?

In life, we are always given choices about our happiness and how we see the world determines how much we get to enjoy it. If we opt to have a pessimistic point of  view, we will live a life of self-defeated even when to the outside world it doesn't appear that way. 

This doesn't mean we won't have troubles, but it is the path to a more fulfilling life. So if you're always hard on yourself, now is the time to change, nurture yourself, and start a more optimistic point of view.

Scientific research shows that, optimism has been linked to healthy moods, leadership, and good morale, success; popularity, long life, and even freedom from traumatic experiences.

On the other hand, studies also show a pessimistic outlook is linked to depression. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. 
The defining characteristics of a pessimist is that they tend to believe they are not deserving of good, that bad events are suppose to happen to them, and they don't accept themselves. They are not forgiving of themself or others.

Therefore, they believe bad things will last a long time (sometimes forever) and undermine everything they do. Even when presented with good, they tend to be critical and complain. Instead of being grateful for a positive experience. They are their own fault and the cause of their negative world.

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

People respond positively to optimists. Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with.

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side?

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